• Natene Erumi

BBL, Body Shaming And Self-Esteem

As a woman in today’s society it can be very easy to feel the pressures of keeping up with society's ideals of the 'perfect' body.

The rise of social media and influencer culture exacerbates such pressures and has created an open space for publicised body shaming.

It’s crazy to think that women’s body types go in and out of style like fashion trends.

Remember, a few years ago having a thigh gap was the ideal and all of sudden it became “thick thighs save lives”. This causes a lot women to go through serious self-esteem issues as they believe their body doesn’t meet the 'ideal'

What I wish so many of us would realise is the fact that these bodies go in out of ‘style’ like they do, means you should do what you want and not be strung up what is ‘in’.

Changing beauty standards have seen an increase in cosmetic surgery, especially the BBL (Brazilian Butt Lift) procedure. This procedure is said to be incredibly dangerous and yet it’s carried out so often - it’s not hard to take a quick look through Instagram and find a woman who has had it.


Personally, I am all for people doing whatever they want with their bodies because at the end of the day, it’s their own body. Though I am not here for the damage it is doing to so many young girls and women.

BBLs have set unrealistic body expectations, to the point that many of us have forgotten what natural bodies look like.

It seems as if a lot of this is a cycle.

Society portrays unrealistic beauty standards...which sow seeds of doubt and low self-esteem in young women; couple this with body shaming and it causes them to want the change, many opt for surgery.

But where does this cycle end? Women are literally getting themselves killed trying to meet unrealistic beauty standards.

It is important to love yourselves and every inch of yourself because at the end of the day, who else will? These 'trendy' body types come and go, but the love you have for your body will always remain once you learn to love yourself. If you start comparing yourself to others on social media - take a break. Come off of Instagram or put your phone down and remind yourself of your favourite features. Easier said than done, but it definitely works for me.

You are beautifully and wonderfully made. Don’t forget that.

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